I Got My Baby Back!

Last night was THE first night in over two weeks that Anya slept through the night.  I got ten beautiful, peaceful, and restful hours of sleep last night.  She even woke up happy and was content to lay next to me in bed as I nursed her.  The sweet gurgles, coos, and ya ya’s were a warm welcome to my ears after all of the crying and screaming I heard in the last two weeks.   Could the teething finally be over?  I feel like holding my breath.  I feel like jumping for joy.  A mixture of feelings and emotions fill my internal being and I’m not quite sure what to make of them.  My happy sweet little girl is back!

So what helped my daughter get through teething?  Tylenol at bedtime.  Chilled teething rings and washcloths during the day and surprisingly, vanilla rubbed on her gums.  I bought orajel, but was highly let down by reading the ingredients.  I don’t want dyes.  I don’t want sucralose.  Sucralose is the undercover name for Splenda.  Artificial sweeteners are never good no matter what form they are in.  Why does a baby need sweetners anyways?  We are always being told that we don’t need to add sweetners to food because we want to teach baby to develop a healthy eating pattern.  Yes, it might help them accept medication easier….but don’t fake me out by saying that artifical sweeteners are safe.  I’m sorry, I just don’t want chemicals for my baby.  So boo for orajel.

Sometimes, I had to just let Anya cry herself to sleep.  It would seem the more I would try to comfort her and rock her to sleep at night time and bed time, the more I would aggravate her.  Perhaps it was because I was so tense.  If you can stay relaxed then go ahead.  It was more beneficial for me to just let her be.  I love my child.  I know she was cared for and it is not often that I let her do that so I felt she was O.K.

Being a mom is definitely challenging.  So much time is given of oneself to care for little ones.  It can be discouraging.  It is definitely tiresome.  But, it is SO rewarding having known how  much hard work goes into caring for your child when you see how happy they are in the end.  So for all those moms out there who feel like giving up (like I did even just a few days ago), for all those moms who feel like they aren’t going to make it because they feel like zombies….hold on!  Don’t get discouraged when people tell you ‘it won’t last forever,’ or ‘hang in there,’ really…just hang in there because it really doesn’t last forever.

So all in all, i feel happy.  I feel awake and that ‘s the biggest thing!  My baby is back.  My happy, cooing, playful, energetic little girl is done teething…at least for now.

Happy and rested mommy signing off.

The Joys of Teething

So my seven month old infant girl is in the process of teething.  She has already done well with her two bottom teeth but at seven months now she is beginning to break in her top two teeth.  She is not handling the pain very well at all.  For almost two weeks now, or what seems like an eternity to me, she has been extremely fussy, not napping well, and she has also been waking in the midnight hours every four hours or so.  That means I am constantly trying to comfort her and at night am waking with her to give her another dose of tylenol or mortrin.  I feel that my attempts at comforting her or getting her back on somewhat of a good schedule are failing horribly!  So in an attempt to figure out how to bring her relief, I am going to write about the things that work and the things that don’t work.

So far I have been alternating giving her children’s tylenol and children’s motrin.  This seems to work pretty well.  The only problem is I hate the idea of pumping her full of chemicals.  But do I out weigh that in return for the relief it brings her?  Being a sleep deprived mommy and fully exasperated by not knowing how long this is going to go on for I would say yes.  But something inside of me still says  no.  I am looking for a dye free tylenol.  This would at least minimize the effects of harmful things such as red 40 which is a known carcinogen.  The tylenol seems to be more effective than the motrin.  A close friend suggested this to me after telling me that motrin has little or no effect for her.  I didn’t even think to think of that for my little girl.  It seems it is true because she slept for a solid three hours during the day after giving it to her.  So the quest is to find dye-free tylenol.  Will it be cheap?  Probably not.  But I think I’m willing to pay the price for the sake of a little rest for myself.

I’ve also heard frozen teething toys or frozen fruit.  The teething toys work great but they don’t say cool for very long.  Thus, I am constantly rotating them out of the freezer. She does seem to love a frozen wash cloth to chew on.

She is not napping well  at all and I know she is tired.  My first child was so easy.  I rarely gave her any medication because she handled the teething well.  She slept well, she ate well, and she was overall just pretty content.  My second is the total opposite.  She hates teething and it is upsetting her napping schedule.  Last night she did not go to bed until after 9pm because of it.  I think she finally fell asleep because she was obviously so worn out.  It seemed the more I tried to do to comfort her the more she would fuss.  Am I a failure???  This is the question that often runs through my mind!  Having the screaming child in my arms makes me feel so helpless!

So today I am going to go shopping.  I just feel the need to get out of the house a little bit.  Perhaps some visual distraction will help her ignore teething.  Here are the things I am going to try.

1.  Look for dye-free tylenol

2.  Buy bananas and give them to her frozen like I read on someone elses blog.

3.  Freeze teething toys like crazy!

4.  Buy orajel.

5.  Find chamomile to rub on her gums.

When the list runs out and she still has no relief I will then race over to my bed, grab my pillow, stuff my face in it and scream as loud as I can.

The end.

Tired, exhausted, frustrated mother signing off.

Blowing Steam

My house or apartment or single room for that matter is almost never clean.  My  husband and I live in a single room apartment with our two girls.  That leaves us with very little room to move.  Basically, the girls sleep in the room because that is the only way I can keep them from waking up during nap times and bed time and allows me to shut the door so I can get some work done.  August and I sleep out in the great room which is also our living room, which is also our kitchen.  Sound cozy?  Not exactly.  It is almost never clean because even if one part of the room is dirty it causes the rest of the room to look a mess as well.  If our bed is unmade, there is no closing the bedroom door to hide it.  If the kitchen is a mess then it takes nearly 45 minutes alone to clean it because the sink is a single sink with a faucet that barely reaches high enough to rinse our biggest pot and there is no dishwasher.  Clean dishes are thus always piled up on the counter because usually I am ALWAYS washing dishes.  If I sound frustrated that is an understatement.  Our apartment sits over a garage so we are constantly tracking in rocks and dirt.  Luckily the floor is hardwood so that makes cleaning at least a little simpler since all I have to do is sweep.  There is no washer and dryer in our apartment.  To wash our clothes I have to go next door to my in-laws house (who are the ones who own our apartment) upstairs and into the farthest back bedroom to wash our dirty clothes.  There is no closest space and what closest space I do have is piled high with boxes storing everything under the sun.  So, our dirty clothes usually sit on the floor in plain view until I can get a chance to do laundry…which isn’t very often because usually I am chasing our two girls around who are both less than two years old.  It is very difficult to carry them both over next door and upstairs so i can do laundry which takes at least two hours.  So, do I sit there or make the trip twice with the girls?  Yarrrg!  What can I say?  I try to make the best out of it that i can.  I try to stay positive and most of the time I am but sometimes I just feel so overwhelmed with it all.  There is no air conditioning except for one window unit and since we sit above a garage, it gets very hot in here even with the unit running.  It is not insulated well at all so in the winter time we are spending an arm and a leg to heat the place.

I just want to get out of here.  As my husband holds down two jobs in this slow economy I know we don’t really have room to complain.  I’d rather rough it here than demand more of him to have a bigger place.  I just feel so helpless sometimes.  Do I go out and get a job and leave our two girls?  The thought of that makes me cringe.  What can my husband do?  He is working so hard!  All I can do is hold on to the hope that someday this will all be history.  Perhaps I’ll even look back upon this time and laugh.  But right now it’s hard.  That’s all I can say.  I pray for patience continually.  I pray for mercy because I am such a fallen person and I hate that I get so frustrated.  I pray for wisdom in using what I can to teach and instruct our children.  Perhaps God is teaching me that less is more.  He wants me to be content in all things.  I know.  I’m trying to relax.  I’m trying to stay positive.  But sometimes I just have to vent.  I recognize that I can’t do everything that I want to and I have to make sacrifices but I am not perfect and I do get so frustrated.  There.

Now I will return to my duties.  I will continue cleaning.  I will make my bed.  I will put the girls toys away only to have them back out again.  I will wash our dishes and put them away.  I will sweep the floor.  I will scrub the shower.  I will start over and do them all over again within a matter of minutes.  Will I smile?  Probably not.  But I will try to remember how blessed I am to have my two girls and a husband that works hard.

The end.